Tuesday, June 4, 2019

Raising children without a village

Those of us who grew up in the village would realize how convenient it was for our parents to raise us during our childhood. Whenever we fell sick, our parents did not have to cancel their appointments or take leave from work. They always had someone from the family circle to come over and take care of us for the day. Even when our parents were away for several days, we always had the love and blessings of our grandparents, uncles, aunts or neighbors. We never felt alone. But now that we are in the towns and cities, our kids are mostly growing up in a compartmentalized world, cut off even from the closest neighbor.

Although rural life is comparatively tough, it prepares the kids to face the outside world better. It is in the village that children can learn values and understand what it means to be part of a community. More importantly, they get to know each and every member of the family and understand how to respect them. In the absence of such a community in the towns and cities, we have to literally introduce our children to the members of our family every time they visit us because our children can hardly remember them the next time they see them. We definitely require a village to raise our kids because it provides a safe environment for them to grow up, away from the darker side of the modern world.

Without a village, life has been different in towns and cities. It is sad that we are now mostly living in isolation, creating boundaries and building walls around us. We don’t even know who is living next door and what’s happening in the neighborhood. We are living in a kind of individualistic society where our children can’t see what is beyond the walls of our homes. The bustling city life is increasingly making it difficult for us to manage time for our children and the saddest thing is that they don’t have any close relative at home to spend time with them. Had they been in the village, they would have got enough opportunities to be with their grandparents and other members of the family, enjoying their unconditional love and care. They would have got enough time for social engagements because people always have time for each other whenever necessary. There is a strong sense of community and social responsibility amongst the people. In times of need, the entire community comes together to lend their helping hands. But such social cohesions can be hardly seen in urban life as everybody is too busy to give time for one another. Our children are therefore growing up alone in their own small world, disconnected from the larger family network. With social and cultural values still intact in the village, it is definitely the best place to raise kids. If we had not grown up in the village, I don’t think we could have inherited so much values and life-long lessons from our parents and grandparents. If we want to raise our kids the way we were raised, we definitely need a village to go to from time to time.


  1. Amrith Sir, its absolutely true

    1. Thank you so much MB Sir for the support and encouragement la...