Monday, June 1, 2015

My first gift for a girl

Since 1991, the integrated education policy was introduced in Khaling to help the visually impaired children cope with sighted people in the same learning environment. This was initiated to enable the blind children to develop relevant skills and abilities to live an independent life by interacting with sighted children. As a result of this policy, we were required to attend classes in regular schools at least three days a week. I was studying in grade II when this policy came into effect. So, I went to Khaling Primary School thrice a week to study with other sighted children. It was during this time when I first met a girl who instantly became my good friend. We soon came to the end of the academic year but once again met in grade III in the following year.

In 1992, we were fully integrated into the regular schools and I had to attend classes in Khaling Primary School for the entire week. That gave me more opportunities to interact with her. We soon began sharing eatables and other things. I was only 12-years-old but I knew I was in love with this girl although I could never let her know about it. I think she also had some soft-corner for me because I could make that out from the way she behaved with me and treated me. I used to get so excited and happy whenever she was around. The intervals and lunch-breaks were the most awaited moments of joy and fun. At that time, she was the main factor that motivated me to go to school and participate actively in the class. Whatever I did, I always tried to do something that would impress her. Although I didn’t have money or anything that could be shared, I always tried to talk nice to her and remained very decent. Although some friends kept teasing us, we continued as good friends.

However, one day while chatting together in the classroom during the interval, she told me she needed a geometry kit since she had lost hers. She didn’t ask me to buy one for her but I really wished if I could get one for her. I thought that would be the best opportunity for me to prove my love for her. But the saddest thing was that I didn’t have even a single penny with me. I kept thinking about this for a few more days. Suddenly I realized that Dashain was round the corner and hoped that some Lhotsham teachers might invite me for Tika ritual during which money with flowers would be given as a symbol of blessings and good wishes. For me, that was the only viable option at that time. As days passed by, I kept praying for my dream to come true.

Soon, Dashain came and I was more excited as I waited in anticipation for at least some of my teachers to invite me. To my surprise, I and a few other Lhotsham students were invited by one of our teachers. I was extremely excited and glad to get the invitation. But my worry still remained a bit: will the money I was going to get be enough to buy a geometry kit? We were soon inside our teachers’ house, ready to receive Tika from our Gurus. After blessing us with Tika, we were handed a neatly folded paper and a piece of flower each. I knew there was money inside the folded paper but did not know how much was there. I was hurried to get out of the house and know how much money I had got. After finishing eating whatever we were offered, we left for our hostel.

I soon learned from one of my friends who could see a little that I had got Nu.15 in total. I instantly requested him to accompany me to Khaling market to look for a geometry kit. He demanded that he would help me only if I buy him something to eat. I agreed to his demand on the condition that if the cost of the kit was less than Nu.15. The we went to Khaling bazaar looking for a nice geometry kit. Soon we found it in one of the shops but sadly, it was costing Nu.15 exactly. I made the payment and got the kit but my friend was very disappointed. He got angry with me that I did not buy him anything. I begged his pardon for that and returned to the hostel.

The next ordeal was how to hand the geometry box over to the girl. I carried it with me everyday to school but could not get the guts to give it to her for about a week. Finally while coming out of the classroom during one of the intervals, I found her at her desk alone humming a song. With certain kind of nervousness, I called her name and gave her the geometry box. I immediately rushed out of the classroom to avoid further enquiries from her. I felt so relieved that I could ultimately fulfill my dream. When we met later, she thanked me for the gift and I felt so happy that she liked it. That was the first gift I ever gave to a girl.


  1. An interesting account of your love story of the yesteryear, sir. Liked it. Keep writing.

  2. sweet and very cute story. :)